A dating expert said it can be fun to date divorcees – but there’s one type she thinks women should completely avoid.
Jana Hocking thinks divorced men are – overall – “an untapped market we really need to lean into”.
This is because they are keen to learn from mistakes, and do better following failed marriages.
Even so, she said they can be tricky on Tinder, as they don’t seem to know how to navigate the next steps.
What’s more is Jana said not all are good options to date, and she’s learnt this from personal experience.
She met a divorcee on Instagram and they were really attracted to each other on their date.
As sparks flew and smiles beamed, they decided to go on a weekend away.
It was all going really well until they reached the first night, and things took a drastic turn.
Writing for news.com.au, she said: “He picked me up the next day from my hotel and he was looking HOT.
“He grabbed my hand on the walk to the restaurant. As someone who hasn’t had a proper boyfriend in yonks, this act of affection meant a lot. Probably more than it should to most people. But hey, touch is my love language.
“We had a lovely dinner and then home for a movie and wine before an early start the next day.”
Then he started to talk about how he was missing his children and, though she said there’s no problem with that, she started to feel like he’d rather be with them than her.
She started to figure out that his divorce was probably a little too fresh, as he wasn’t coming to terms with not being able to see his children each day.
Then he chirped in with: “Yeah, I don’t think I’ll ever date properly again. It’s the single life for me.”
It seemed a strange thing for someone to say when he was on a romantic trip away and was surrounded by wineries and rose petals.
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It wasn’t long before he opened up about his former relationship – and by the end of the weekend Jana said she ended up feeling like a “therapist”.
“We had got to the bottom of his troubles and put a plan in place for him to really get back on top of things,” she added.
“And I’m super chuffed for him, but safe to say the spark had been extinguished.
“In the end, I made up an excuse to get dropped off at the airport a few hours earlier and promised myself that it would be a lesson learnt. No more dating blokes fresh from a marriage break up.
“So let my faux pas be a lesson to us all – there must be at least a year in between break-up to boyfriend.”
She said before you hook up with a divorced guy, make sure he’s had the time he needs to work through the custody battles, break-ups and had all the rebound sex he needs before he makes his way to you.
